You're going to think it'll make him like you. Or make him love you. Or make him stay with you. Or make him choose you.
He's going to tell you it might work. He's going to look at you with the eyes that make your skin tingle. He's going to reshape the air in the room to the point that you can't not touch him.
It's going to seem like a good idea. Like the great plan. Like the only way to go.
It isn't.
Girls, I promise, sex has never fixed a broken anything.
In itself, sex is a great thing. And, in twenty years when you're out of college and living on your own with your wonderful husband in a house with a fence and a hypoallergenic dog, feel free to do it to your little heart's content. It'll be a great way to spend a few minutes. And, after you've taught him how to do it properly, it will even be an extremely fine way to spend an evening. Yes, you will have to teach him so pick a smart man who is good with his hands and isn't afraid to stop and ask for directions.
But, please believe me when I say "it's not a band aid."
If he's a jerk, sex will just make him a jerk with a smug smile.
If he doesn't love you, sex will make him not love or respect you.
If he's leaving, sex will only delay his exit for a few inevitably unsatisfying moments.
And, if there's a choice between easy sex and a woman he has to work for, he'll take the free samples while saving up for the quality goods.
Every time.
You want him to like you? Be you. If that doesn't work, nothing will. Do not sleep with him.
You want him to love you? Be you. If that doesn't work, nothing will. Do not sleep with him.
You want him to stay with you? Be you. If that doesn't work, nothing will. Do not sleep with him.
You want him to choose you? Be you. If that doesn't work, nothing will. Do not sleep with him.
However, if the man you love faithfully loves you, chooses you, and stays with you - hand him a beer and let him hang out with his friends. And sleep with him. Not necessarily in that order.
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